Are parents' names put on wedding invitations?

But if you want to include your step-parents, it is perfectly acceptable to include them. Put your mother (and her husband, if she has remarried) first, and include your surname. So, do parents' names have anything to do with who pays? Well, yes and no. But a lot of wedding traditions are thrown away these days.

Many couples pay for their own wedding. And if that's the case, parents' names are not necessary on the wedding invitation. Having the parents' names on a wedding invitation is also a great way to acknowledge the parents, whether paying or not. The bride's name always precedes the groom's name.

Formal invitations issued by the bride's parents refer to her by her first and middle name, and to the groom by his full name and title; if the couple is hosting on their own, their titles are optional. The parents of the bride and groom should be listed on separate lines, beginning with the bride's name or whoever is first in alphabetical order. Since both surnames are included in the salutation, it is not necessary to use the surnames of the bride and groom-to-be, unless, again, one of them has a different surname to their parents. In that case, put their full name, plus their parents' full names.

Traditionally, the bride's parents are the wedding hosts and are named at the top of the invitation, even in very formal affairs. However, including both parents' names as hosts is an elegant option, regardless of who is footing the bill. In addition, more and more couples are organising their own weddings or doing it together with their parents. Wedding invitation wording may not be as creative a process as paper design, calligraphy and colour schemes, but when it comes down to it, even the most beautiful wedding invitations need to be informative.

Sometimes we see couples include the registry information on the back of double-sided wedding invitations, but we prefer it to be included on a separate card or on the couple's website. It is important to note that just because you choose to follow wedding invitation traditions does not mean you are sending "traditional wedding invitations". The host line at the top of the wedding invitation text acknowledges who has paid for the wedding. According to wedding invitation tradition, the bride's parents should be included on the wedding invitation.

If the bride and groom and one or both sets of parents are contributing to the wedding, wedding invitation etiquette suggests that all be listed as wedding hosts. Wedding invitations should convey basic information about the celebration, while offering a sense of the couple's aesthetic and style. After your guests receive your wedding invitation in the mail, they can go to your wedding website and see the same colours, patterns and designs. I've found that there are several reasons to ditch traditional etiquette when it comes to wedding invitation wording.

The most important rule of all is that you create a beautiful wedding invitation that represents you, your love and the big day ahead (and communicates the vital details of the wedding), so feel absolutely free to take inspiration from these wedding invitation wording rules to create your own.

Mary Westlund
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